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How to Survive the Gay Scene Part One
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So you have just discover the gay scene, like the jungle, it's full of dangers, exotic creatures, poisonous creatures and breathtaking sights. You just have to know how to handle them.
Part One: Night Clubs. Gay nightclubs can be a great place to go to meet people and have fun, they can also chew you up and spit you out. Here are a few tips on keeping from getting spat on or spat out.
Most cities have gay clubs these days, some have many gay clubs, some have only one or even a club that has a 'gay night' only once a week or month. Coming out into a large city can be very exciting and even feel very liberating for a newly 'out' gay boy. Suddenly he can go into a club and actually check out guys without fear of having his head bashed in. He can also be checked out and even flirted with. It's a wonderful feeling of freedom.
Cities with more than one gay club find that the clubs tend to develop subcultures within them. You might have one club that has mostly muscle guys, another that caters to twinks and skinny boys, another that's for bears and leathers and another for mature age guys. Occasionally you will also get clubs that have a very mixed clientele too. Most smaller cities that only have one or two clubs generally are like this.
Getting to know what club is what can be exciting and scary if you don't know what you are getting into. It's always best to go out clubbing with at least one friend, but if you are very new to the gay scene, it's best to do some research before you head out. It's always a little uncomfortable if you are a skinny 18 year old guy and you walk into a club that's filled with muscle, leather guys. It certainly gets you some attention when you walk in, but it may not get you the attention you were hoping for, unless that is, you are into leather. I recall once going into a leather bar by mistake and being shocked to see guys being lifted up by their nipples and being rimmed on the pool tables.
Many young men have committed suicide because they could not reach impossible goals. The Good
Going out to a gay club if you have just come out gives you a wonderful feeling of freedom. Suddenly you can flirt, check out and even pick up other guys without fear of homophobic violence. You can make new friends with similar interests. You can network and meet other gay guys and girls who can give you advice and help with jobs, places to go etc. If your day job requires you to be in the closet, the gay club is a great way to really be yourself, even if it's just once a week.
The Bad
Be careful of drink spiking. Never accept a drink from a stranger and always keep your drink in hand. Many young guys have been the victims of sexual assault because they were drugged. Most of them feel too ashamed or embarrassed to report it and so the assaults go on. Toxic people. There are some people on the scene who are very toxic. These people are usually habitual and regular drug users. Beware of them. They will say what you want to hear, they will flatter you, they will be your 'best friend'. They will also lie about you behind your back, they will steal from you, they will say or do anything to hide what they are really like, even if that means lying about you to everyone you know. They will borrow money from you and never repay it, they will steal everything from clothes, mobile phone and money from you and deny it. You can tell these people because they always need pills for the weekend. They always seem to be involved in some sort of drama with someone. Every week there is always someone they hate or someone who 'fucked them over'. Beware these people and stay away.
The Ugly
The gay scene suffers from reverse prejudice. You will find rampant ageism, racism, body imageism and heterophobia in the gay scene. Larger cities even have a 'pecking order', a social order if you like. They usually place slim or very fit white males, who are under 25 at the top of their tree. It is very often these people who spread the prejudice within clubs and on the scene. I have witnessed guys who are over 30 being blatantly ignored, or being called 'dirty old men', guys from non white European backgrounds being called racist names either behind their backs or to their faces. This usually results in men starving themselves to reach impossible levels of body fat, bleaching hair, bleaching skin, undergoing cosmetic surgery and worse. It is one thing to be trying to look your best and another to try and change who you are to look like everyone else. Many young men have committed suicide because they could not reach impossible goals. These people are also usually the first to scream 'homophobia', yet they spread an equal amount of hate within our own culture. If we want to be accepted by the mainstream, we must start in our own backyards and accept each other.
We must stop assuming that all men over the age of 30 are 'perverts' or 'dirty', thin is not in, white is not right. The best people you can meet are those who are happy with who they are and what they are and are not obsessed by how they look or appear. Those people are only trying to cover up a very ugly inside.
Enjoy the gay club scene, but remember to take it for what it is. It is not real life. It is meant for entertainment. Try not to make it your life, but just a small part of your life and you will survive and enjoy it.
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